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Three Things that Parenting After Betrayal Advice Gets Wrong
From the hundreds of messages I have received from teens and young adults about their parent’s cheating, here are three crucial but often-missed factors to consider when speaking with your kids about infidelity.
6 Ways to Build Trust with a Hard Conversation
Talking about your parent’s affair is a series of difficult conversations.
How to Have a Conversation that Builds Trust
Trust is such a crucial building block of a healthy relationship, both one that you have, or one that you are working to create, say when you are dating.
Six Ways to be Accountable to your Kids After an Affair
Part 3 of a 7 part series on Rebuilding Trust in the Parent-Child Relationship after Parent Infidelity, this post is especially for parents who have decided to stay together after infidelity. Accountability means that you own your mistakes, apologize and make amends for them, and this post offers six ideas for being accountable to your kids.
How to Rebuild Trust with you Kids After Parent Infidelity
Simply put, reliability means doing what you say you are going to do. Not just once, but over and over again, so that others expect it of you. Here are five small, manageable steps that you can take as a parent to be more reliable for your kids, which will help rebuild trust with them.
I am the Betrayed Parent. Why are my Kids Angry with Me?
While each family situation is unique, this kind of reaction from your kids is common, and generally, it is not about you. In this post I offer the two most common reasons kids (of any age) blame the betrayed parent, and what you can do to cope with it.
FOUR BOOKS TO HELP KIDS OF INFIDELITY
Four books to help kids of any age dealing with parent infidelity, and the parents, teachers and therapists who support them.
Two Moms Model How to Speak with the Kids
Two moms model 4 important parts of communicating with your kids about infidelity.
Why Write a Memoir?
Writing the memoir has changed me in ways that I am still not great at articulating. I updated my understanding of what happened to my family from the eyes of a child to the lens of an adult, which may explain why I can now think more clearly. I am calmer. I am more myself.
Intergenerational Infidelity: What We Know So Far
Like anything else, infidelity carries its own set of beliefs, which begs the question, what is the intergenerational nature of infidelity? There have been few studies done on how infidelity is replicated through generations. This post will summarize these studies.
HELP! I AM A PARENT. HOW DO I SPEAK WITH MY KIDS ABOUT INFIDELITY?
As a parent involved with infidelity, the decision to share the information with your kids is a difficult one. This post addresses the If, Why, When, What and How to speak with your children about an affair.
HOW TO SPOT A CHILD STRUGGLING WITH CHEATING PARENTS
A myriad of emotions arise for children when they discover their parents’ cheating. Some, like anger or confusion, most people understand.
WHY PARENTAL INFIDELITY SUPPORT IS IMPORTANT FOR KIDS
As every couple’s therapist knows, infidelity presents a serious relationship challenge. Parents struggling with infidelity face the work of managing their adult relationship, while also caring for their kids.